Menopause is a time of self-discovery. Things that were enjoyable in the past, feel like they no longer fit. Here are 3 questions to ask yourself when your life isn’t working in menopause, that apply to any situation.
What is the Problem?
Believe it or not, some people are unhappy and can’t pinpoint the reason why. This where a journal can really help out. Sit down where it is quiet and you won’t be disturbed. If you have trouble getting started, just write I am unhappy and I don’t know why. Keep at it until ideas start flowing, and write them all down. This can be a painful process, but keep writing.
What Can You Change?
Most problems have a solution, but it may take you out of your comfort zone to make changes. For example, you may be burned out at work and ready to walk out, but first see if it’s possible to make things better.
Is it possible to job-share, switch to part-time hours, or work another shift? Now might be a good time to use some of those vacation hours and relax.
Can you talk to your boss about your concerns? Pick a time when he/she is not too busy and don’t get angry or bad-mouth other employees. Offer to be part of the solution and put in extra time if needed.
What Can You Accept?
What if your talk with the boss doesn’t go well, or you are just burned out and want to change careers? Are you willing to accept that you may have to put up with a less than desirable boss until you find something better?
Changing jobs may require extra time and expense to upgrade your skills. The economy is not what it used to be, and jobs are not as plentiful. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it, just be aware that life may get uncomfortable in the meantime.