Finding Your Passion

Discovering a Whole New You!

I was thinking this morning about my own employment history, and I performed a variety of jobs. Most were in the clerical field as a receptionist or typist, and it was a way to keep a roof over my head and the bill collectors off my back. Most of the jobs were not that enjoyable with the exceptions of working at a mortuary and a temp job where I tied ribbons on candied apples. We dressed in Wizard of Oz costumes, carried a small dog dressed like Toto, and went from office to office passing out these Halloween treats.

I was just grateful to have a job, but now people are thinking more outside the box, and want to work at something they are passionate about.  Here are four benefits of finding your passion:

Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

You probably have a set routine every day, but now you’ll need to be open to new opportunities and possibilities that may send you in a different direction. This is a deal-breaker for some people who decide it’s easier to stay where they are instead of trying something that may not work.

Improved Mental Health

Nothing saps your energy quicker than working a soul-sucking job in which you feel trapped. However, the excitement of finding that special passion can make you feel more energetic.  You may have to continue working at your job for a while, but now you may have new opportunities on the horizon.

Learning More About Yourself

As a life coach, I am continually amazed that so many clients don’t know what they want out of life. There are many helpful tools out there such as passion quizzes, aptitude tests, and making a list of your strong interests to see what motivates you.

Meeting Others on the Same Journey

As I have pursued my passion of writing, I have connected with others who are on the same journey. There are some people who have always known what they are passionate about, but the majority are just like you and me. It takes a voyage of self-discovery which may include prayer, a willingness to experiment, and some good old-fashioned patience.

The journey to finding your passion may be a long one and you may feel like it is never going to happen, but don’t give up. What is waiting for you on the other side will be well worth it.

4 Tips to Help You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Watch Your Confidence Soar!


When I was in college, each member of my class was required give a speech. Luckily for me, or at least I thought it was lucky at the time, the instructor gave us this information on the first day. I was so freaked out, I went to the school office, and dropped the class.

I didn’t want to take the chance of choking up, stumbling over my words, or someone laughing at my discomfort. Now, I look back and think it wouldn’t have been the end of the world if any of these things had happened, and I probably would have learned a thing or two.

It’s different for each person, but stepping out of our comfort zone is not easy. Here are four benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone:

It Gets Easier

The next time something unexpected comes up, you’ll remember you got through that tough situation before and you can do it again.

Make You More Productive

If you’ve gotten comfortable with your routine at work, it’s tempting to just do the absolute minimum to get by, and act like you’re too busy to learn something new.  When there is a sense of urgency to meet deadlines, you shift into high gear, and may find new ways to streamline the process.

Trust Your Judgment

When problems come up, it’s tempting to weigh all the options over and over again. Sometimes a snap decision needs to be made just to get the process in motion. You may have to make corrections along the way, but that’s also a good learning experience.

It Might Be Fun

Drive a new route to work, change your hairstyle, visit a new church, or run through the lawn sprinkler. If things don’t work out, so what?  Change things up again.


When Life Hands You Lemons

Pick Yourself Up and Keep Moving Forward!

I blogged a few days ago about how everything seemed to be going wrong at once. We got the car fixed, the heat pump is in the process of being fixed, Mark is feeling better, and so I thought ok this was a financial strain, but we got through it and it’s time to move on with life.

Then, this week we had a massive storm and the fence blew down. It’s always something, and no one is immune from problems. The only thing you can change is your attitude.

Here are five tips to follow when life hands you lemons:

Accept Change

It may often seem like you are dealing with more than your share of problems, but if you can accept the fact that things in life never stay the same, it will be easier to find solutions when problems arise.

Keep a Positive Attitude

I will be the first to admit this is not always easy, but not all unexpected problems are negative. For example, if you lose your job it may seem like the end of the world, but often it can lead to better opportunities that you might not have been able to take advantage of before.

Have An Alternate Plan

It can be so exciting to put those life-changing plans in motion. Perhaps it’s looking for a new job, a new house, or you’ve decided to go back to school and train for a different career.

Unfortunately, things don’t always work out when we want them to, so it’s always good to have an alternate plan, so you don’t get depressed and not know what to do next.

Practice Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

There’s no better way to get used to change than getting out of your comfort zone. Introduce small changes in your life. Take a different route to work, invite a new friend out to lunch, or order Chinese and eat the whole meal with chopsticks.

Stress Doesn’t Solve Your Problems

Stressing out is not going to solve your problems, and you’ll just feel more flustered and confused. Put your thinking cap on and decide where you’re going to go from here. Decide what you can fix or improve. In some cases, you might have to make the best of your situation until you can put your plans into motion.





Is Your Retirement a BIG FAT BORE?

Folllow These Tips To Quickly Turn Things Around!

The day I retired was one of the happiest days of my life. No more long commutes, office politics, and putting up with annoying bosses.

However, not everyone is happy being retired. If you were looking forward to traveling, it can be mighty expensive to take that cruise or dream vacation that you’ve been looking forward to. Since you’re trying to get by on less money, you may find yourself searching out free things to do, or just staying home.

Other retirees may not have money problems, but you miss that interaction with co-workers and feeling like you were making an important contribution to your company. If one spouse is used to being home alone, having the other spouse there all day can really set your nerves on edge.

The good news is that if you would like to reenter the workforce, there is always something you can do.

It’s natural to want to go back to the place you retired from, but that isn’t always possible. Asking yourself some important questions will help you zero in on your dream job. What kind of work would you like to do? How much money would you like to make?

Do you want to work full-time or part-time? Are you willing to train for a job or would you like to own your own business? Do you prefer a job greeting the public or do you prefer to work alone?

If you like to travel, consider joining a tour company as a guide. Cruise ships are often hiring and you could be an activities director or work in the gift shop. That way you get to see some beautiful country and make money at the same time.

If you like to camp, working as a campground host not only allows you to enjoy the beautiful scenery year-round, but you will also meet different campers from all over the United States.

Do you enjoy swimming and being out in the sun? Apply for a lifeguard job, and you’ll meet a lot of interesting people to swap stories with. You’ll also have time to work on your tan.

If money is not a problem, consider volunteering at an animal shelter. There are always dogs that need to be fed, walked, and just shown some affection. If you are a dog owner, you may be able to use him as a therapy dog and visit nursing homes and hospital patients.

What kind of work would you like to do in retirement?

Kick Menopause Symptoms to the Curb

Join a Support Group for a New Lease on Life!

In the early 1990s I worked in the office at a local rest home. One of my fellow workers was experiencing terrible hot flashes and would sit in front of the fan, peel off layers of clothes, and remind the rest of us she was burning up. As a last resort, she decided to turn on the air conditioning, which would have been fine if it hadn’t been the dead of winter. The rest of the office huddled together like frozen fish sticks until she finally turned it off.

The rest of the world doesn’t seem very sympathetic to a woman in the throes of menopause, and have their own problems to deal with. However, it is helpful to be able to confide in someone who knows what you are going through.

Hot flashes, muscle aches, loss of energy, and weight gain are just a few of the symptoms that you may feel you need extra support to deal with.

That’s where joining a menopause support group can be life changing. These groups are springing up everywhere so there’s a good chance you can join in your hometown. It provides a safe environment where you can tell it like it is without someone telling you to shut up and deal with it.

Every woman deals with menopause in her own way, and a support group brings women together who are facing similar issues. You can pick up some good tips that you’ve never tried before, and maybe that is just what you need to take care of your symptoms.

It’s very satisfying to know that you have made a difference in someone else’s life and you can develop lifelong friendships. Helping other people always takes your mind off your own problems, even if it’s just for a short time.

If there is no support group nearby, you can choose to connect on the internet or by telephone. You can choose a professional group leader, such as a nurse, social worker, or psychologist or just appoint someone from within the group.

When you can openly express your feelings, you  feel less stressed, and better able to cope when troublesome menopause symptoms arise because you know you can always turn to the group for support.

Ask your doctor about finding a menopause support group, or contact a church, library, or community center.  The internet may help you find what you’re looking for, or if you really want to step outside your comfort zone, start your own support group.

Are You Sick and Tired of Bad News?

One Positive Thing That Will Have You Smiling!


I’ve decided my days of being a news junkie are over. I’m tired of hearing about the senseless things people say and do, and the current administration in Washington leaves a lot to be desired.

What I have been doing more of is seeking out positive news stories. There is still a lot of good in the world, you just have to look for it. Surprisingly, we often overlook the blessings we have already experienced.

I was reading an article this morning about the benefits of having a blessings bowl. You may be thinking what in the world is a blessings bowl? As you go through your day, think about all the things you are grateful for. Write these things down on a small slip of paper or Post-It note and put it in your blessings bowl.  At the end of the year, read each slip of paper, and you’ll be surprised at how much is going right in your life.

If you want to get fancy about it, you can order a beautiful blessings bowl online. There are sets that have the blessing bowl, a pen and paper, ribbon, and instructions on how to use it.  However, if your wallet is flatter than a pancake, use any bowl you have on hand, a pot, or even a hat.

A blessings bowl makes a nice gift for a friend or family member. Instead of writing what you’re grateful for, think of all the helpful things this person has done for you and write them down. Once the bowl is full, you have a nice gift that will be cherished forever.

It’s easy to get lost in our crazy world, and counting your blessings keeps your emotions in check, and you realize that you are still making a difference in your own life, and in the lives of others.

What are you grateful for today?




Is Your Job Getting On Your Nerves?

4 Tips for Taking a Mental Health Day


When I was in the work force, there were days that were so stressful I was about to snap. I worked the phones for a large insurance company, and guess who was often on the other end of the line? That’s right, customers who were irate about their insurance premiums, and it was my job to calm them down and resolve the problem.

I definitely needed a mental health day where I could just take off work and do something fun, and try to forget what a bitchy office I worked in. According to workplace help expert Brandon Smith, “there are four signs that you need a mental health day.”

You Can’t Sleep

It’s not always possible to leave your problems at the office, and you may find yourself stewing over a work problem to the point that at bedtime you’re tossing and turning, and can’t fall asleep. If you do fall asleep, you may wake up in the wee hours of the morning with your mind still racing.

(Who Cares) Attitude

I remember when I would get multiple rude customers, I developed a (who cares) attitude, and wasn’t as worried about giving the right information. I even entertained the thought that I might be fired, and then I could find a less stressful job.

You’re Cranky with Friends and Family

This one is always a catch-22 because you may feel you can’t blow up at your boss, but taking your frustrations out on your friends and family doesn’t solve your work problems. Activities that you used to enjoy are not fun anymore if you’re constantly thinking about what is going on at work.

You’re Stressed About Past Problems

It was hard for me to shake off the rude callers, and I would still be stressing over what happened a week ago. Very few of my calls were people who were praising the company, and it seemed like I never could take a break from all the complaints.

Don’t feel guilty about taking a mental health day. If you’re sick you take off to go to the doctor and take care of yourself. Your mind also deserves a rest. Listen to music, exercise, shop, hang out with friends, or just relax with a good book. You’ll be in a much better frame of mind when you return to work.

What do you like to do on mental health days?

Are Wordly Worries Weighing You Down?

5 Benefits of Attending Church


I have to chuckle when my Mom talks about her church. I thought I was a foodie, but this congregation takes the prize when it comes to eating. The morning starts off with doughnuts, and then after the last hymn is sung there is a pow-wow in the parking lot about where to meet for lunch.

After a long afternoon nap, whoever can still rise to a standing position, lumbers out to the car, and drives back to the church for a potluck and evening program.

A good feast is always a good thing in my book, and it is fun to fellowship and meet new friends. Here are four other benefits of attending church:

Time of Reflection

Menopause is typically a time when you are an empty nester, and you’ve been so busy tending to everyone else’s needs that you lose sight of what is important in your life. Following the teachings of your church can lead to massive personal growth, and you’ll wonder what you can do to make the world a better place.

Positive Environment

You’re not smoking and drinking at some honky-tonk bar, or doing drugs with the in-crowd. When you’re going through hard times, the church can be a great support system. Listening to positive sermons encourages you to live a better life and develop to your full potential.

Giving Back

There is always some type of program that needs a healthy infusion of cash, or some able-bodied volunteers. You can teach Sunday school, help serve at coffee hour, volunteer in the office, or offer to help with gardening or lawn maintenance.

Fellowship with God

If you could count all the things you worry about on a daily basis, I’m sure you would have a very impressive list. There are plenty of opportunities to pray with like believers, or you can seek out a private area and pray on your own.

Let God handle your problems and you’ll leave church with a lighter, more carefree spirit.


Get Back on the Horse

Keep Working Toward Your Goals!


I’m always up for a new adventure and when a friend invited me to go horseback riding, I was eager to give it a try.  It was just my luck to get the biggest and most cantankerous horse in the stable. I gave myself a little pep talk, and swung into the saddle.

I tried to guide him with the reins, but either he was mixed up or I was, because he kept walking into bushes on the trail. It wasn’t long before we were at the halfway point, and I felt I could finally relax. Apparently, my horse had a difference of opinion, and took off running at top speed back to the stable.

I felt like the villain in a bad western movie being chased by the sheriff. I hung on for dear life, and was a nervous wreck by the time we got back to the stable. It’s a good thing I love animals, because my first thought was to dismount and give him a good swift kick in the rear.  I could have sworn he gave me a dirty look as he was led back to his stall.

My journey into horseback riding was shaky to say the least, but if I had another opportunity, I would get back on the horse and try again. Maybe choosing a smaller horse with a calmer disposition, doing some research to see what makes a horse tick, and more guidance from the staff, would make all the difference.

Living a successful life is a lot like riding a horse.  There are times when you’re feeling your way along, and you’re going to make some mistakes along the way. You may be so discouraged that you’re tempted to give up.

Get back on the horse. It may take awhile to reach your goals, but if you stay on your feet and keep moving forward, you will be successful.

5 Creative Things To Do in Retirement

Including Some Freebies!


Retirement is everything I thought it would be and so much more.  No boss to answer to, beating the crowd for restaurants and shopping, taking trips whenever, and there is a check waiting for me each month. What a life!

However, not everyone that is retired is happy with their situation, and they miss being out with people and feeling like they are making a contribution to the world.

Here are five creative things to do in retirement:

Sing in a Chorus:

Sure, you probably sing in the shower, but now that you have more free time, consider joining a chorus. Pick a group you are interested in and attend a few performances. Some choirs are more professional, while others just want to have fun. You might even be interested in joining your church choir.

Theatre or Concert Usher

You’ve probably got a list a mile long of shows or concerts you would like to see, but they’re too expensive to get good seats. Volunteer to take tickets at the door or show people to their seats. Once the show starts, your job is usually over, and you can sit back and enjoy these talented performers.

Take a Cooking Class

Yes, you probably have been cooking for years, but you can always learn something new. Holiday baking is popular, or you can learn how to work the grill when it’s barbecue season. There is always an option you will enjoy, and it’s a chance to meet new friends.

Campground Docent

Do you like to travel to state or natural parks and stay for extended visits? All that beautiful scenery, being out in the fresh air, packing a picnic. It all sounds divine but expensive.

Instead of coughing up all those camping fees, volunteer to lead nature walks, assist with cleaning up campsites, or just be a friendly welcoming face as people arrive.

Reconnect with Your Spiritual Side

Now that life isn’t so hectic, you may find that something is missing in your life. You may feel the need to meditate, pray, or doing something to help others.

If you’re interested in being part of a community, consider going to a church, mosque, or synagogue.

What creative things have you done in retirement?